While love is required as an ever-present components of great marriages, hinging the whole of your marriage on it will end in nothing but disaster.
It is not enough that the presence of your sweetheart makes your heart flutter, and your stomach do a quick succession of flips.
It’s
also not enough that the sun seems to shine brighter when you’re with
your girl; it’s surely not conclusive evidence that your marriage will
be full of sunshine and warmth. It does not work that way.
That
is pretty much an established fact. But is that the only marriage fact?
Of course not. Below we list 9 more wedding facts you should know
about.
1. The honeymoon phase may be a myth
There
is a longstanding belief that married couples enjoy a sweet phase of
the relationship when everything is all sweet and rosy. That might be
untrue afterall.
At Deakin University’s
Australian Center on Quality of Life, researchers say that couples
actually get the most happiness after one year of marriage, and not
before.
They say it has to do with
something “wedding hangover” ― a feeling of sadness once the wedding is
over and the actual marriage begins.
2. Cuddling needs to be a priority
A
2014 study out of the University of Toronto found that even a small
amount of cuddling can produce substantial increases in sexual and
relationship satisfaction. Now imagine the wonders you’ll see in your
marriage if you increase the dosage of cuddling you get.
Just imagine it.
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In
2015 researchers at the University of Alberta found that couples who
take turns cleaning the house had higher relationship satisfaction and
had more joy in the bedroom than couples who didn’t.
So instead of wondering if your head game is on point or not, why not take up a mop?
4. Contempt causes divorce more than you think
John Gottman,
an American marriage expert says scornful behavior like eye-rolling,
sarcasm and name-calling is the number one predictor of divorce.
After
his study of about 40 years, he concludes that the key predictors of
divorce aka ‘the four horsemen of the apocalypse’ are contempt,
criticism, defensiveness and stonewalling.
5. Better discuss finances before the wedding
Couples
who have disputes about finances early in their marriage don’t last
long together according to a study from the University of Kansas.
It
may not be the sexiest premarital convo but talking about money issues
now rather than later could save you a world of heartache.
6. Men really benefit from getting married
A
major survey of 127,545 American adults found that married men are
healthier than men who never married, or those who divorced.
Of course, the research also found that they live longer.
7. Arguments are actually good for your marriage
Never shy from arguments because you fear a disruption of happiness in your marriage.
Florida
State University researchers found in 2012 that bursts of arguments can
actually be beneficial to relationships. Arguing helps signal to your
partner that certain behaviors are unacceptable by you, and helps them
adjust.
8. Divorce may be contagious
If
someone in your social network ― say your coworker BFF or family friend
― splits up, the statistical likelihood of ending up in divorce court
yourself increases by 75 percent, according to the “Social Forces”
journal published in 2013.
“Individuals
who get divorced may influence not only their friends, but also their
friends’ friends as the propensity to divorce spreads.”the researcher says.
9. Marriage betters your heart condition
In
one recent study out of New York University’s Lagone Medical Center,
researchers found that married men and women had a five percent lower
chance of cardiovascular disease compared to single folks.
Hey, your heart actually needs love. Read that literally.
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